good tipps from jason here. i personally don't like gating it because i give up a bit of control. (one release for every hit) normally i mute the toms (the bleed in the toms is always a pain in the arse xD) by hand everywhere they dont play and fade out when suited. if you wanna have a more natural method it would be volume automation for me. but this is only my style and opinion ^^
i normally completly mute it because the snare normally induces some harmonies an ring on the toms and i don't wanna have this kind of sound at all ^^
let us know the result!